As much as any parent does not like to admit or think that their teenager is thinking about sex, or even worse they are having sex, we all known that sex is on a teenagers mind and perhaps boys minds more than girls. Sex and sexuality is paraded on all music TV stations and in all of your sons and daughters favourite pop videos, how can they not be attracted to it and think about it. Another point we have to face is that currently it seems that teenagers are reaching maturity quicker, or at least they think they are.
Most parents would love to think that their son or daughter doesn’t have one impure thought about the opposite sex at this young age, when in fact if we are truthful with ourselves we known we are probably lying to ourselves. But how much does the teenager really know about sex?, a recent study showed that when questioned over 70% of those asked thought oral sex wasn’t classed as sex!
A staggering 60% said that they had taken part in oral sex and 35% admitted to having sex at least once, how old where these children?, they ranged from 14 to 16 years of age. The good news however is that most of them knew and realised why safe sex is essential and admitted that they had used protection and were well aware of the consequences, not only of preventing unwanted pregnancy but also the risk of infection.
Do our children actually know more than what we realise? For some it seems they just might. However, there are a lot of misconceptions when it comes to sex and getting pregnant, here are just of the more common misconceptions that teenagers have said when asked about the subject in studies:
* You cant get pregnant the first time you have sex.
* You cant get pregnant if you have sex standing up.
* You cant get pregnant if you have sex in the bath.
* From the boy – I’m too young to get you pregnant.
* From the boy – a condom wont fit me.
* From the girl – I cant get pregnant when I just finished my period.
* From the boy – you cant get pregnant if I pull put before I ejaculate.
* You cant get pregnant if your parent is a heroin addict.
* I didn’t sleep with him I stayed awake.
* From a boy – if you have sex right before her period it will all get washed out.
* You cant get pregnant if you jump up and down after having sex.
* You wont get pregnant if you wash your hair straight away after having sex.
What parents can do
All parents should admit to themselves whether they like it or not that teenagers do think about sex and many will indeed explore it, different people have different views on what age parents should talk with their children about sex. However, if all parents are honest with themselves then the earlier you start the less chance your child will have of believing some of the above listed misconceptions.